The voice we hear within, the constant inner discussion we have with ourselves, is extremely crucial in our actions and behaviours. Everyone, be it old or young, men or women, any races, have a voice within us that speaks. These monologues are often called self-talk.
The inner critique determines a lot on how we perceive the world. Many self-help coaches have derived positive self-talk as one of the major areas that we need to improve on, in order to attain greater fulfilment in life. The idea of constructive and destructive self-talk can drastically determine the quality of your life and confidence. Observing your self-talk, a practise also known as mindfulness, is one that many have adopted over the years in order to continue growing and achieving the various goals set amongst challenges in life.
“The limits of my language means the limits of my world” – Ludwig Wittgenstein
Neuro-linguistics practitioners have long utilised the technique of positive self-talks, also known as affirmations, to assist people in meeting challenges or cultivate stronger self-confidence. However, some may have deferred this practise or tool because their beliefs are still based on the external factors that influenced their thoughts. This may be the conversations with other people, bad media, scenarios that occured that further strengthen their negative experiences. Positive affirmations do require a strong sense of determination in order to cast away ideas that do not serve you. Yet, we constantly come to the question of “how“?
Do you get hyped up during and after motivational events, thinking everything is going to work out, and yet ended up disappointed or back to where you were before?
Do you plan the entire conversation in your head every time but when it’s time to speak, you stutter or went complete silence?
Do you make all your plans to head to the gym for a workout session, and yet, ended up at home watching tv or having drinks with your friends?
Before you divert from the ideal scenario playing in your mind or feel the excitement in yourself, there is a small little voice that may say these – “this is not working!“, “oh, I can do that tomorrow“, “does this really work?“.
These are from the works of our analytical brain, one that analyses the upcoming experiences from the previous experiences we have had.
How do we cultivate our inner culture of positive belief towards action?
A great way to start, is to never let your analytical brain take control.
Mel Robbins derived the idea of the 5 second rule and it is a great tool for taking control of your analytical brain towards taking action. This can be applied even to the simplest idea of waking up on time.
Often we keep waiting and analysing the consequences or possible criticisms, only to end up doing nothing at all. As time passes, we realised the things we have set out to do, ended up back into our tray of things to be done. How often we see people who includes this in their New Year’s Resolutions: “To achieve my New Year’s resolutions from 20xx“?
But I need a plan to mitigate risks…
This is where deconstructing your major goals come into place.
What are the steps or action that you can take NOW to move forward?
We often think that in order to achieve something, we need a major plan of action. But the smallest step can also bring us nearer to where we want to go.
“A journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step” – Lao Tzu
The idea of cultivating a positive self-talk is to move us to action. And in order to move us to action, it is important that we need to know how to get into action.
Make your self-talk work in your favour and make it your tool towards success today.